How to Untangle Attachments

* Also see the post entitled ‘Defining Attachment,’ which explores varying levels of attachment, including enmeshment and entanglement * Releasing attachments to old experiences can be challenging. Especially so when they’ve left you feeling hurt, betrayed or otherwise unsettled. Perhaps you felt like you built your life around the thing, person or situation that’s no longer in your life, and the attachment is the only residual tie to the deep love you experienced. It’s as if the loyalty to your pain is a distorted way of expressing the love you felt. (This brings to mind the song ‘Landslide‘ by Fleetwood Mac). This goes deeper than simply missing someone, which is a fleeting feeling of nostalgia which arises and leaves you with a sense of warmth Continue reading How to Untangle Attachments

Defining Attachment

Varying levels and forms of attachment differ by degree of emotional investment. There is bonding, a natural and healthy form of attachment, which usually begins with the bond between parents and children. Then there is attachment, a more complex connection between a person and a situation or another person. This can be both healthy and unhealthy depending on the emotional investment. There’s also entanglement, or enmeshment, which happens in dysfunctional and abusive relationships, those rooted in trauma bonding structures. It’s natural to become attached to people, things and situations that have become a part of your life in some way. We all have the need for emotional connections and the desire to feel supported and seen. The challenge begins when the attachments become unhealthy; for Continue reading Defining Attachment

An Ode to your Magical Body

Your magical body is the home of your soul, the conduit you chose to explore this thing called life. It’s a masterpiece! It may not feel immediately easy to access body-love when you wake up every day and see the fifteen pounds that weren’t there last year, or the scars and stretch marks that ‘mar’ your skin. How can you love your body when the images you see every day portray a version of beauty that doesn’t describe your unique fabulousness? It may feel challenging or even impossible to reach a state of love for your body if you’ve experienced shame, abuse or bullying for the way you look or move. So, what’s the best advice I can give? Start where you are. Your body Continue reading An Ode to your Magical Body

Falling in Love with Life

We’re heading into a weekend that ends one month and ushers in a brand new one. There is a whole lot of change happening at so many levels, and if you’re feeling exhausted, emotional or overwhelmed, do whatever you need to stay grounded and be compassionate with yourself. Take the time to rest, and if possible, don’t ‘push through’ whatever you’re feeling, but just let it flow. There is a concurrent thread of falling in love all over again, and of aspects of ourselves waking up that haven’t been heard from in some time. It feels like the final days/weeks of chrysalis mode, when the exhaustion of becoming the new is felt side by side with the knowledge of what is to come. I have Continue reading Falling in Love with Life

Independence, Co-dependence and Interdependence

Good morning and Happy Tuesday! I hope you all enjoyed your weekend (some were long weekends) and are feeling positive about the new month ahead. There is definitely expansion happening, and we may be called to be more visible or visible in different ways this month. I was lying in bed last night and got some messages around independence, co-dependence and interdependence. It seemed independence was the word of the day yesterday. I pulled the Bast card from the goddess deck, whose message was independence. It was July 4th, which is the day the US celebrates their independence. And a Facebook group I’m a part of was considering the ideas of independence and freedom. So let’s look at these three concepts. Independence on a feeling Continue reading Independence, Co-dependence and Interdependence