Telling New Stories

Housesitting here by the sea, it feels healing and revitalising. I was standing on the pebbly beach today, and a message came through about our stories/patterns. Here’s how it was shown to me: Think of a handful of pebbles as a story. If you drop that handful back onto the beach, you won’t be able to replicate it again (unless you are purposely collecting it on a pristine surface). It seems we sometimes want to tell and retell old stories, and so we continue to pick up pebbles from that same stretch of beach, changing some of the elements and repeating some of them, over and over. As long as we try to retell the same stories, to or about ourselves or others, we’re not Continue reading Telling New Stories

Relationships A to Z

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This is a shortened version of the full list which can be downloaded as a PDF: The ABCs of Healthy Relationships. Is it really as easy as ABC? Good relationships don’t just happen, they take attention, maturity and a willingness to learn and grow. Relationships are the ultimate mirrors, so it’s never all about the other person, but about what they may be reflecting to you, from within you. And you can choose what you reflect, especially if what you’re seeing is not what you think you want to see. As you read through the list, consider if you embody the things you’d most like in a partner, and if not, is it fair to expect them to meet those needs in you? Consider whether Continue reading Relationships A to Z

The Art of Self-appreciation

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How can you find self-appreciation in a world full of reflections that want you to believe you’re not good enough? It’s important to find it, because it can reduce stress, increase well-being and engender heightened feelings of success. What is healthy self-appreciation? There’s a certain humility and relaxation that comes of confidently, quietly acknowledging your innate talents and gifts, and using them in ways that light your heart. It’s not an ego-driven, vociferous exhortation of all your best assets, followed up by proof in the form of photos, documents and extraordinary testimonials. Start by dropping comparisons. This is a biggie. It’s easy to appreciate yourself when you’re the only one around. It becomes more difficult when someone else enters the picture and suddenly one of Continue reading The Art of Self-appreciation

Asking with Love

I had an insight last night that I wanted to share. It was about asking, and receiving. I could feel a difference in myself over the past few days and then it was suddenly clear. When you ask from a state of constriction (fear, lack or shame, for instance) your capacity to receive is impeded. The act of asking feels aligned with the __fear, shame, or lack___ which then increases THAT vibration in your being, which then creates further constriction. When instead, you ask from a place of deep self love and self-respect, you receive from a place of power. This is the embodied type of power that comes from deep within, from knowing and accepting your divine self at a deep level. You feel Continue reading Asking with Love

An Ode to your Magical Body

Your magical body is the home of your soul, the conduit you chose to explore this thing called life. It’s a masterpiece! It may not feel immediately easy to access body-love when you wake up every day and see the fifteen pounds that weren’t there last year, or the scars and stretch marks that ‘mar’ your skin. How can you love your body when the images you see every day portray a version of beauty that doesn’t describe your unique fabulousness? It may feel challenging or even impossible to reach a state of love for your body if you’ve experienced shame, abuse or bullying for the way you look or move. So, what’s the best advice I can give? Start where you are. Your body Continue reading An Ode to your Magical Body