Many of my friends seemed uncertain about theirs, and when I saw my own, I knew what they meant. I felt a deep sadness.
The funny thing is, I really enjoyed watching those of my friends and family, and it seems mine was the same for them.
It took me a few weeks and some deep diving into my shadows to understand where the sadness came from.
February was a difficult month, part of which for me was a health scare which had me contemplating my own mortality. It’s the same month my Dad died, 33 years ago, so that’s ‘there’ every year as part of the energy, too. My Facebook movie surfaced right around the same time, and these things combined were the root of the sadness: does this movie reflect the legacy I want to leave in the world?
It’s not that it was an unpleasant film in any way, it was just unfinished. A life incomplete. Because of the mental space I was in, I looked at it from the perspective of ‘if I were to die tomorrow, would it honestly reflect the story I want to tell?’ And the answer was no, not really.
I know logically that a Facebook movie is not an accurate reflection of my life, and that it goes much deeper than that. It was, however, an excellent tool for mirroring to me a broader concept, relating to legacies and the stories we tell.
I’m not done yet, and neither is my movie. There is SOOOO much more to come, and so much more I want to say.
The first 30-some years of my life told a story far different to the one I tell now, and it changes every day. I know how much power we have to shift our perspectives, and how valuable it is to constantly examine the beliefs we hold to see if they’re resonant with our soul’s desires.
I know we can change the past by changing the present, because as we shift, our hold on the old stories falls away. They become some of our greatest lessons instead of being the truth that defines our reality.
I know that if someone had asked me ten years ago what my life would look like, I would not have described THIS. For the first time, I LOVE my life and I feel like I’m just getting started.
One thing about the Facebook movies is that if you don’t like the elements they chose, you can change them.
That’s the same with life. If we don’t like the stories we’re currently telling ourselves, we can change them. If we don’t like the circumstances we find ourselves in, it’s within our power to choose new ones.
Another thing is, no one else is directing our movie. If we’re living life as if it were written by someone else, we’re not claiming our power. If we’re allowing the stories we live by to be defined by someone else’s version of reality, we’re not discovering our own.
I love revelations like this one, because they provide shake-ups that offer us opportunities to re-examine our current practices and what might need to change.
We have the capacity to shift anything in this 3-D reality, simply by choosing to do so. By embracing the idea that we can change the elements that our movie focusses on, we give it a whole new look, feel and ending. We tell a different story.
It’s the same way that two people can argue opposite sides of a point by bringing in supporting evidence of their stance. They are each convinced that they have the inarguable proof that will ‘win’ the argument, when in truth, any viewpoint can find support if we look hard enough.
If we focus only on evidence that supports our argument, we blind ourselves to the idea that other versions of the truth exist.
If we believe enough in our old stories, we find evidence to support them in every reflection. We begin to cling fiercely to them as unchangeable definitions of who/what we are. Yet they’re just stories. In the same way that the Facebook movies are.
To ensure we’re leaving the legacies we truly wish to leave, we need to write our own stories. The ones we’ve been told no longer serve us; they’re not even ours.
When we find a way to embrace our legacies, we find we’re writing, directing and producing our own movies. And they’re blockbusters.
*I’ve written an eCourse about mindfully examining and changing the stories you tell. If you’re interested you can find it here: Re-Writing the Story of your Life.*