The Legacy of a Facebook Movie

8-03-5Recently Facebook celebrated their 10th Birthday, and as a gift to all of its users, created a personal movie using photos and status updates from the past decade.

Many of my friends seemed uncertain about theirs, and when I saw my own, I knew what they meant. I felt a deep sadness.

The funny thing is, I really enjoyed watching those of my friends and family, and it seems mine was the same for them.

It took me a few weeks and some deep diving into my shadows to understand where the sadness came from.

February was a difficult month, part of which for me was a health scare which had me contemplating my own mortality. It’s the same month my Dad died, 33 years ago, so that’s ‘there’ every year as part of the energy, too. My Facebook movie surfaced right around the same time, and these things combined were the root of the sadness: does this movie reflect the legacy I want to leave in the world?

It’s not that it was an unpleasant film in any way, it was just unfinished. A life incomplete. Because of the mental space I was in, I looked at it from the perspective of ‘if I were to die tomorrow, would it honestly reflect the story I want to tell?’ And the answer was no, not really.

I know logically that a Facebook movie is not an accurate reflection of my life, and that it goes much deeper than that. It was, however, an excellent tool for mirroring to me a broader concept, relating to legacies and the stories we tell.

I’m not done yet, and neither is my movie. There is SOOOO much more to come, and so much more I want to say.

The first 30-some years of my life told a story far different to the one I tell now, and it changes every day. I know how much power we have to shift our perspectives, and how valuable it is to constantly examine the beliefs we hold to see if they’re resonant with our soul’s desires.

I know we can change the past by changing the present, because as we shift, our hold on the old stories falls away. They become some of our greatest lessons instead of being the truth that defines our reality.

I know that if someone had asked me ten years ago what my life would look like, I would not have described THIS. For the first time, I LOVE my life and I feel like I’m just getting started.

One thing about the Facebook movies is that if you don’t like the elements they chose, you can change them.

That’s the same with life. If we don’t like the stories we’re currently telling ourselves, we can change them. If we don’t like the circumstances we find ourselves in, it’s within our power to choose new ones.

Another thing is, no one else is directing our movie. If we’re living life as if it were written by someone else, we’re not claiming our power. If we’re allowing the stories we live by to be defined by someone else’s version of reality, we’re not discovering our own.

I love revelations like this one, because they provide shake-ups that offer us opportunities to re-examine our current practices and what might need to change.

We have the capacity to shift anything in this 3-D reality, simply by choosing to do so. By embracing the idea that we can change the elements that our movie focusses on, we give it a whole new look, feel and ending. We tell a different story.

It’s the same way that two people can argue opposite sides of a point by bringing in supporting evidence of their stance. They are each convinced that they have the inarguable proof that will ‘win’ the argument, when in truth, any viewpoint can find support if we look hard enough.

If we focus only on evidence that supports our argument, we blind ourselves to the idea that other versions of the truth exist.

If we believe enough in our old stories, we find evidence to support them in every reflection. We begin to cling fiercely to them as unchangeable definitions of who/what we are. Yet they’re just stories. In the same way that the Facebook movies are.

To ensure we’re leaving the legacies we truly wish to leave, we need to write our own stories. The ones we’ve been told no longer serve us; they’re not even ours.

When we find a way to embrace our legacies, we find we’re writing, directing and producing our own movies. And they’re blockbusters.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

*I’ve written an eCourse about mindfully examining and changing the stories you tell. If you’re interested you can find it here: Re-Writing the Story of your Life.*

8 Replies to “The Legacy of a Facebook Movie”

  1. Ah, well my Facebook movie is full of duck face poses with my children; while that captures the essence of what I am about, I certainly hope of all that I have created that is not my legacy (although yes, to my children having confidence, joy, laughter, connection, love, freedom of creative expression to so effortlessly, and consistently pose for these photos!).

    I had an eye-opening experience this week that showed me while I had re-written my story, my ‘old story’ was so familiar that I hadn’t even noticed there was residual in this newness…if that makes sense? I no longer hold those limiting beliefs, yet in some areas I was still living them, because I hadn’t realized they were integrated. Now that I know, I can re-write again.

    I like this line *When we find a way to embrace our legacies, we find we’re writing, directing and producing our own movies. And they’re blockbusters.* Feels like a great intro to a writing seminar or ecourse (for you to create!)

    • Thank you, Joy!

      I love your perspective on the Facebook movie – how it shows your kids as confident, joyful, loving, people learning to be themselves in the world. I can look at mine with new eyes now and see where I’ve grown and thrived, not where I *haven’t*

      I agree that changing our stories is an on-going process of constant awareness, drawing our attention to places where the story is so familiar we don’t even recognise it as part of our story. I’m actually working on that eCourse as we speak 🙂 Very exciting!

      Thanks so much for your visit, and for leaving your wonderful insights.

      Big Love,

  2. Beautiful and inspirational Jenny. I actually loved my FaceBook movie, but the brevity of it certainly had an impact on me. It left so much out, so much that I considered important in terms of sharing with the world. I guess that’s why we do what we do – because there is SO much more to share, SO much more to embrace and be aware of and relate to and love.

    It sounds as though your brush with mortality and the movie combined were a very strong message for you. My wish is that you are around for a hell of a lot longer, because I love the messages you spread. Thank you for being you.

    • Thank you, Shan!

      I just had a sudden flash that it was actually good that I felt the way I did, that it scared the crap out of me, because it means I LOVE my life. I can honestly say that now, whereas ten years ago, the same situation would have just seemed like one more thing life was ‘throwing at me.’

      Thank you for your wish, and your lovely words. I also wish that for you. I believe I will be here a lot longer, but I suppose it never hurts to stop and appreciate what a gift life truly is 🙂

      Big Love,

      • Pictures are worth a thousand words and they speak to and about such a deeper part of our values. I completely agree with you that our movies on facebook provide a legacy or imprint of how we walk this magickal and sacred path in life. Thank you for your insight and wisdom.

        • Thank you for your comment, Flora!

          I love the reminder about pictures being worth a thousand words… Legacies come in so many forms, and the pictures we choose or paint (either with words or artistically) are very much tied in to our stories. Every footstep we take leaves its own legacy along this precious path 🙂 Lovely.

          Big Love,

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