Honour your Courage

I was out for a walk this week with the dogs and ran into a woman taking some photos. Of course I started talking, because that’s what I do. In the course of the conversation, we were sharing some of our stories, and she said ‘you are so courageous!’ It got me thinking, I don’t always share stuff I’m going through or how I’m living, because it’s become so normal to me. She reminded me that many of the choices I’ve made in the past ten years are incredibly courageous. This is the thing with normalising our own experience – it’s one of those things I often question about what to share and what not to share. It feels so completely normal and natural to Continue reading Honour your Courage

Enduring vs BEing with Discomfort

I woke up at 4am feeling so much magic. It’s funny, because external circumstances aren’t ideal right now, but the overwhelming sense of joy and magic was undeniable. It led to some insights, which I wanted to share. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the idea of enduring – what are we willing to endure, and why? Enduring is a huge part of abusive relationships. Some endure abuse because it’s all they’ve ever known, and adapt using cognitive dissonance, which keeps them feeling the safety of the familiar while not actually bringing awareness to the patterning. Some endure because it gives them a sense of power or martyrdom – ‘after all I’ve done for you…’ which then switches back into a kind of perpetual Continue reading Enduring vs BEing with Discomfort