How to Untangle Attachments

* Also see the post entitled ‘Defining Attachment,’ which explores varying levels of attachment, including enmeshment and entanglement * Releasing attachments to old experiences can be challenging. Especially so when they’ve left you feeling hurt, betrayed or otherwise unsettled. Perhaps you felt like you built your life around the thing, person or situation that’s no longer in your life, and the attachment is the only residual tie to the deep love you experienced. It’s as if the loyalty to your pain is a distorted way of expressing the love you felt. (This brings to mind the song ‘Landslide‘ by Fleetwood Mac). This goes deeper than simply missing someone, which is a fleeting feeling of nostalgia which arises and leaves you with a sense of warmth Continue reading How to Untangle Attachments

A Visit from my Dad

I wanted to share with you an experience from yesterday. My Dad came for a visit. This may not sound special, but he’s been dead for 35 years, so I love it when he makes his presence known. Sometimes it’s through dreams, sometimes through a general sense of his support, and other times, like yesterday, it was a whole-body experience. I felt hugged and then saw his face in my inner eye. He pointed me towards a memory, one of my favourites, that I hadn’t thought of in a while. When I was first learning to ride my bike, he was teaching me by holding the back of the seat and getting me to pedal, and then would let go. I fell a lot. One Continue reading A Visit from my Dad

Falling in Love with Life

We’re heading into a weekend that ends one month and ushers in a brand new one. There is a whole lot of change happening at so many levels, and if you’re feeling exhausted, emotional or overwhelmed, do whatever you need to stay grounded and be compassionate with yourself. Take the time to rest, and if possible, don’t ‘push through’ whatever you’re feeling, but just let it flow. There is a concurrent thread of falling in love all over again, and of aspects of ourselves waking up that haven’t been heard from in some time. It feels like the final days/weeks of chrysalis mode, when the exhaustion of becoming the new is felt side by side with the knowledge of what is to come. I have Continue reading Falling in Love with Life

Putting Down Roots

I’m feeling very strongly the need to be grounded and rooted right now. There’s a lot of chaos in the collective and it can be unsettling. I found another tree circle yesterday and this one was made up of five trees growing out of a single root structure. I climbed up into the middle and sat on a branch to feel into the energy and asked about putting down roots. The message was beautiful, and clear. It is VITAL to put down roots, because it connects you to the Love of Mother Earth. Wherever you are, no matter how temporary it may seem, put down roots. It is an important aspect of claiming your space and of creativity. Putting down roots engenders a safe place Continue reading Putting Down Roots

When I Forget I am Magic

When I forget I am a creature of magic forged in the diamond fires of stardust and sunshine… I feel confused and only partially alive. When I forget that I can create moments of exquisite beauty in the blink of an eye… I get distracted by the noise of striving, pushing and competing, and I feel frustrated. When I forget I can hear the gentle whispers of the trees, the wisdom of the whales and dolphins, and the loving messages of the Earth… I feel lonely and unsettled. When I forget that my inner child is the most joyful, magical being I’ve ever met, and I forget to listen to her voice… I feel despondent and disconnected. When I forget I am magic… I don’t Continue reading When I Forget I am Magic